Does Negligence Render Us Narcissistic?

…of what does our world truly consist?

It’s safe to say that enough articles have come up in recent years about how our generation has become, by far, one of the most narcissistic generations in human history. Not only have we been spoiled by social media’s constant reminders of self in comparison to our worlds, but we have also become so moralistic and self-righteous in our deluded drive to “rectify humanity”. What if I told you, humanity was never broken, but that our perception of self in relation to our role in “our” and “The” world is warped?

Many of us have this unspoken and almost unrecognized superiority complex where we have to “save the world” — be it the actual physical world, be it a sociologically “incepted” concept such as race, gender, status and so forth, be it sorting out other people’s relationships, be it filling in the loopholes of our memories and experiences. It is an entitlement where we feel that humanity has failed, the world is broken, and 2016 caused us to lose all hope.

I call this “entitlement” because so often we complain, about anything and anyone, which springs from the standpoint that “the person did not fit my paradigm”. Or, in laymen terms, “he/she did not live up to my standards or expectations”. And there it is, the most entitled attitude that we project our desires and expectations onto a person, or an ideological concept, or a situation, or a monetary figure etc.

We are so focused on the details of what we perceive to be our world, our reality — but of what does our world truly consist? Even as I sit here typing this behind the screen, I’m shooting myself in the foot over the irony that my world actually consists of people. Humans. My world is what it is because of the people who choose to be a part of it, and yet a screen is how we are reminded of each other. It is how we make an effort for each other.

Showing appreciation should not feel like “effort”, but how often do we get so raveled up in our own priorities, our own passions, our own perceptions, that we neglect the PEOPLE who are our reality? 

If the answer is more often than you’d like, then I would recommend taking a moment to personally reflect on the issue of whether negligence renders us narcissistic.* (Clear distinction: narcissistic, an adjective describing those who are self-absorbed and self-centred. This is not to say that one is a narcissist, merely that one exhibits characteristics not unlike one.)

Before we project our repressed narcissistic behaviours onto narcissists who actually have a condition (painful as it may be), maybe we should reflect a little.

Or does all this reflection just generate more narcissism…The paradox is yours.

Have a good week!


1. Millenials Admit to Being Narcissists, but Don’t You Dare Call Them That

2. Me! Me! Me! Are we living through a narcissism epidemic?

3. Me! Me! Me! The Rise of Narcissism in The Age of the Selfie

Symbols of Perspective


Perspective is everything, and we are taught to interpret symbols in images as well as words. When you see a blue box with an “F”, we associate it with Facebook. A large green “M” represents a can of Monster. But symbols are not just images, they are also words. When you hear the word “success”, you automatically think money, grades, and suits before we think happiness and long-term progress. When we hear “work”, we think of tedious, endless tasks of working for long hours with bare minimum appreciation instead of the long-term outcome of “no pain no gain”.

But what if everything were as simple as a syntactic reversal to naturally, not conditionally, achieve results?

When someone says “I was thinking of doing this,” we automatically assume they mean they’ve changed their mind now. When they say “I am thinking about doing this,” we interpret it as they haven’t done it yet.

People have associations with words – both positive and negative. Children don’t like homework, but they like missions, adventures, and projects. We can condition them to work, but that takes effort on both parties. Teenagers don’t like rules, but they respond more positively to suggestions and guidelines as they feel they have a choice. Adults don’t like work, but what if work were called “time killers”, “money makers”, or “a level in a game”?

When you’re young, you rely on what you are told. When you become an adult, you make your own choices based on what you’re taught versus what you’ve experienced. If you want someone to respond positively to use, find words they associate positively. Negative words result in negative results, positive words have positive outcomes. If you want to get what you want, communicate in the syntax they use – speaking to children means using “kid-words”, speaking to teenagers means making analogies with music and movies they like. When communicating with academics, they will automatically respect you more when you use good vocabulary and good grammar. When communicating with the general populous, use simple and concise words.

We are taught to exert a certain level of respect so that others will respect us, but the truest form of respect is when we are willing to choose words according to their responses. Fearful people respond to intimidation; fighters respond to perceived victory.

Often, we become frustrated and angry that people “just don’t listen”, but it’s usually because they’ve heard a word they associate negatively. When someone is told to “wake up earlier”, they see that as a constraint on their freedom. Rather, say “if you wake up early you could get more done” comes across as a suggestion rather than a demand. When someone is told to “go to sleep early”, they associate it with “punishments” because in our childhoods, “staying up late” was perceived as a luxury, a reward.

When you offer people choices and positive associations, they will personally feel that they have made good choices. This builds their confidence and self-respect, which in turns builds their respect for you. People who respect themselves will respect others – but it is not up to us to decide whether or not the person is respectful simply based on appearance. Most of the time, people appear to be disrespectful simply because they haven’t learned to communicate.

Let people hear what you want to say by saying it in ways they will listen.


Why Do People Do What They Do?

We are treasure hunters of the unseen and unknown.

No one really knows or holds the keys and answers to abstract questions about people who act on gut or intuition. There is no correct answer for anything that people may claim to feel at the time they are feeling it, and those who do understand are often “empaths”, like sponges, absorbing energies and emotions.

 Not being able to see out the window sometimes functions as a mental or metaphorical constraint restricting people’s abilities to tap into their supernatural or paranormal instinct.

People are instinctive and instinctual by nature – animals are the same, hence their senses are heightened. They have not been corrupted or ruined by technology or modern development. They have not been contaminated by the corruption and imperfections of our material world.

 Humans are like animals, but they are also social constructs, resulting from everything that once was and everything that now is. Humans of our physical world attempt to control or maintain everything that is without account for changes in energies: elements which cannot be seen or measured on a concrete scale.

 Humans are complicated .Humans are confusing. But that’s because they search for answers in all the wrong places – and disregard actual, sensible and justifiable explanations on the premise that they do not understand these concepts. Abstract ideas are truth waiting to take their place in the secular world – ideas are floating around waiting to manifest into something tangible, understandable, and comprehensible by the average human.

 We are living entities of what is yet to come – we are constructors of our world and writers of our life stories. If you spend your whole life living by other people’s standards and expectations, then end up with a boring, sad and “meaningless” life, you probably deserve it. Yet, when we live our own, based on the routes, methods and how we are taught to make decisions – if people dropped their rationale only slightly, just ever so slightly, and understood (or accepted) that there are inexplicable things in the universe and in the human body that make us who we are, elements that formulate the definition of our “future,” then it is highly likely that the world, the universe and al their entailing elements will slowly begin to fall into play.

 These are concepts which have been accepted – deduced or theorized – since the sixteenth century in Kant’s Metaphysics of Morality, or by John of the Cross and Teresa of Avila from the same century.

 Mystics exist – as do clairvoyants, intuits, and “empaths” – these are all “inexplicables” in which people of today have found ways to explain by using rational thought and language that is understood by the general populous. But the irony of these explanations is that it takes the naturality away from it all. It doesn’t have the impact it ought to – hence, humans, much like Rousseau deduced, are regressing since the development of agriculture and the rise of the information / technological eras.

Somehow, we, as humans, have actually no need to complicate – or “complexify” – things the way we do – and yet we do it anyway for reassurance. We feel compelled to reassure our egos and insecurities that everything can be explained or understood by laymen. But maybe they were not meant to be. Maybe some of us were placed here on earth to uncover the riches and true treasures in which this universe hides – masquerading as a progressive world when really, we are treasure hunters of the unseen and unknown.

 Thus, we make it known and do what we can to impact and change the surroundings and environments in ways that we can consciously control based on the uses of unconscious or subconscious sensing and knowledge.