Here’s an Oxymoron: Monogamy

[Theme: Psychology and Personal Development]

An ‘oxymoron’ means two words that contradict each other.
‘Monogamy’ means two morons contradicting each other.
~Mikavelli~

‘Monogamy’ is one of the oldest forms of human conditioning. Perhaps at one point in history, the concept of ‘monogamy’ was invented to keep women from becoming jealous over male desire, or designed to castrate men from their natural whims, and the scientific gender-neutral excuse would be to prevent disease from spreading.

Monogamy is man-made. Though it is not an illusion, it is embraced widely enough to be perceived as “mass delusion”. The delusion is that ‘monogamy’ will last as long as a historical construct, like a Giza Pyramid or a Great Wall. While the construction may last longer than a lifetime,  it is still nonetheless, a human construction.

In relationships, I’ve observed that the word ‘monogamy‘ itself is an oxymoron used to brainwash morons. Think about it, ‘mono’ means single and ‘gamy’ means marriage… The notion is that “marriage makes you one”, in that “one drop of water and another drop of water make a bigger drop of water”.

Yet if you believe that one dog and one cat are two different animals, or that one pug and one Labrador are still two animals, then the word ‘monogamy’ makes no sense. Perhaps this is true to the generation of self-aware individualists who know the difference between “being your own person” versus “merging with another to justify one’s own existence“.

Now of course, not all monogamists are deluded, in fact, some are entirely practical. Some seek monogamy because they want a new citizenship. Some seek monogamy because it’s ‘for the kids’. Some seek monogamy because they can single-handedly double their income. And finally, the most idealistic version (which I have only seen in three couples), is the commitment to unconditional friendship as a foundation.

So what about monogamy is oxy–moronic?  Let’s reflect a little on the following questions and stay tuned the next few weeks as I write more on this topic.

Mikavelli

 

Reflection questions

  1. Why would we force a commitment for longer than we’ve been alive?
  2. Is monogamy a manipulation for personal gain?
  3. How does monogamy ‘distract’ couples from real issues in life?
  4. In what way does monogamy enable people to justify rather than overcome inadequacy?
  5. Is ‘monogamy’ a mask for co-dependency?

 

 

 

 


One thought on “Here’s an Oxymoron: Monogamy

  1. Why would we force a commitment for longer than we’ve been alive?
    -this went over my head
    Is monogamy a manipulation for personal gain?
    -I’ve used it for this, yes.
    How does monogamy ‘distract’ couples from real issues in life?
    -I’ve lost the “right” to interact with other soul contracts
    In what way does monogamy enable people to justify rather than overcome inadequacy?
    -Shit, all ways although the inadequacy can be worked out and it is what I chose to do with in monogamy
    Is ‘monogamy’ a mask for co-dependency?
    -It can be

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